I can’t tell you how many times I’ve struggled with this as giving meaningful gifts is of utmost importance to me. I’ve been there—standing in a store aisle or scrolling endlessly online, trying to find that perfect gift. The one that says I get you without being weird… or expensive… or totally useless. I personally want a meaningful gift so it’s important for me to give them as well.
Here’s the good news: choosing meaningful gifts doesn’t have to be frustrating or stressful. In fact, it can be fun once you know what to look for. Here are some tips I’ve devised to help me pick gifts which actually make people feel loved…and maybe it’ll work for you too! It’s an evolving process and I’m getting better at it!
1. Pay attention when they’re not expecting it
People drop hints constantly without realizing it.
- If your sister complains about her sore shoulders, that’s a hint.
- If your friend lights up when they talk about their new hobby, that’s a hint.
- If someone keeps losing their headphones… well, also a hint.
Best tip: Keep a notes app list called “Gift Ideas” and add things throughout the year. Future you will be thrilled.
2. Choose something which fits who they are, not who you want them to be
We all have that impulse to buy someone a book we love or a gadget we think is “life-changing.” But the most meaningful gifts honor the other person’s style, not our own.
- If they hate reading, don’t get them your favorite novel.
- If they’re not outdoorsy, skip the high-tech camping gear.
- Meaningful gifts say, “I see you, exactly as you are.”
3. Go for experiences, not clutter
If you’re not sure what to buy, and are really stuck for ideas, consider doing something instead of giving something.
Think:
- A cooking class you can take together
- Tickets to a concert they love
- A day trip to a place which means something to both of you
Experiences make memories—and memories last way longer than scented candles.
4. Personalization makes even simple gifts feel special
You don’t have to spend a lot to make something feel heartfelt. Add a handwritten note, include a small inside joke, or add some kind of custom touch to totally elevate your gift.
I’ve found even practical gifts can be meaningful if you personalize them:
- A mug with a quote they love
- A tote bag in their favorite color
- A playlist curated just for them
- A donation to their favorite charity
It’s not the object—it’s the thought stitched into it. People know when you’ve put effort into choosing their gift.
5. Think about “everyday joy”
Some of the best gifts are the ones people end up using all the time. It could be cozy socks, a great water bottle, a plant that’s impossible to kill, or even a fancy version of something they already use daily.
Bonus: Every time they use it, they’ll think of you. That’s basically emotional interest.
6. When in doubt, ask—but ask smart
It’s totally okay to ask someone what they want, but there are ways to keep the magic:
- Ask their close friend or partner.
- Give options (“Which of these do you like better?”).
- Ask for categories (“Skincare? Kitchen stuff? Cozy things?”).
This keeps it thoughtful without ruining the surprise.
7. Remember: meaningful doesn’t mean perfect
A good gift isn’t about being impressive.
It’s about saying, “I care about you.”
Even small gestures can carry big weight when they come from a genuine place.
So don’t stress too much.
The thought really does count—but only when it comes from an authentic, “I know you” kind of place.
Are you starting to see how easy it can be to choose that meaningful and memorable gift?
At the end of the day, the best gifts aren’t necessarily the most expensive or unique. They’re the ones which make someone feel understood, appreciated, and loved. And we are all totally capable of doing that with a little bit of thought and planning.
Happy gifting!
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